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Sunday, May 14, 2017

Why Mother's Day Isn't All About Me (and why that's okay)

As a child, I loved Mother's Day. A special day I got to show my mom and Grandmas how much I loved them. Now I was homeschooled, so probably failed with that on the mom front a lot. Obviously my mom wasn't going to make cute school crafts for Mother's Day for us to give to her, instead she spent her energy making sure we honored our Grandmothers with special crafts or gifts. She put herself aside and made the day about honoring HER mother and mother in law. I am sure that wasn't always easy when obviously everyone wants a day all about them. But my mom taught me a lot about self sacrifice and honoring others.

That doesn't mean we ignored my mom or didn't celebrate her at all. We all celebrated together. As a family. I loved Mother's Day because it was a day to be together. I got to see my Grandmas, Grandpas and cousins. It was a great family celebration. The dads would all grill or some years we'd just order pizza or chicken. So the moms didn't have to cook, just enjoy the celebration.

I've been so honored to be included in that celebration over the last 10 years since joining them as a mom.

But the internet is a dark and lonely place sometimes. As Mother's Day approaches lately, I find myself becoming agitated and annoyed. The internet tells me that women deserve flowers and gifts and a day all to themselves because it's all about them. It complains about their selfish mothers or mothers in law who want to see their children on this day. I know these are women who are hurting from other experiences and it's just coming out in this way on this day. But it's easy to let it eat away at you. It becomes a day where no one wins, where we tear each other down. Where we compete for who has the best marriage based on how spoiled they were and their facebook photos.Where we compete with who has the worst Mother's Day based on what they didn't get that they deserve. Where those who care about gifts are told they shouldn't and those who don't are told to stop making it all about them.

It makes it hard to find any sort of joy in the day at all.

But that's when I am thankful for my mom. My mom who taught me with her example that it isn't all about me, that I wouldn't be here if not for her and my grandmas who deserve to be celebrated. One day my day will come where my kids and hopefully grandkids gather around to celebrate with me. But until then, I am perfectly fine celebrating with them. We're all in this together. They know better than anyone what it's like. I am so happy to have them as examples in my life of what motherhood is all about.

Happy Mother's Day Mom, and for the gifts you have given ME that will last more than just a day.

Saturday, June 11, 2016

33. Visit Hale Farm

I'm helping my mom with an early learning initiative at Hale Farm. We're coming up with ideas for preschool and kindergarten aged visitors to learn about what's going on through hands on activities throughout the farm.

So today, we went on a field trip to walk through the farm and brainstorm some ideas for different spaces. The kids had fun visiting some of their favorite spots while we were there too!

First stop was the first settlement cabin, the boys practiced lifting a yoke for water buckets and a big cast iron dutch oven. Jobs they might have helped with 200 years ago.

Cicadas everywhere! And so loud in the woods!

Stopped at their favorite site, glassblowing, to see what was going on. They got to see a vase this time.

Hanging out by the general store.

Comparing the schoolhouse to their elementary school, and Noah trying on the dunce cap

The pretty red faced Tunis

Nathan spotted a fawn hiding near the trail on our way back!

It was a great trip, we came up with lots of fun ideas, and the kids had an awesome day. Looking forward to many more Hale Farm trips this summer!

Thursday, June 9, 2016

31. Pick Strawberries

When I wrote this down on my list, I planned on visiting a berry farm (and we still might do that at some point), but my dear friend Lisa just happens to have TONS of strawberries growing in her backyard. So she invited us over to share some with us. The girls got to play with their best buddies who they missed seeing this week, I got to chat with one of my best friends, and we got some amazing berries to take home!

I always forget how much better fresh berries tastes than store bought berries that are picked unripe and then left to ripen on their way to the store and on the shelf. These are so much sweeter and juicier. We probably could have eaten them all tonight if we wanted, but trying to make them last at least a few days!

Wednesday, June 8, 2016

19. Be flower girls

Anthony's sister Anna got married last weekend, and we had a blast! The girls were flower girls for the first time, and it was everything they ever thought it would be. Elise is still talking daily about how much she loved it and how beautiful she was. No confidence issues with this girl ;)

Tuesday, June 7, 2016

1. Build a Swingset

We did it! (well mostly Anthony did it, I just held some things here and there and dodged beams falling on me)

And the kids couldn't be happier! They've spent pretty much all day every day playing outside since school has been out. So nice not to have to drive to the park to swing on swings.

Everyone is learning some important lessons in taking turns to. 3 swings, 4 kids.

Saturday, April 23, 2016

What Should We Do This Summer?

 When I was in high school and college, I used to make a list every spring of things that I wanted to do during the summer. It was a fun way to get excited about summertime, plus just an excuse for my list obsessed making self to make another list.

I've made my "50 Things To Do This Summer" list a few times since I've had kids, but it's been a few years, and my list has definitely changed to be a bit more kid and mom friendly. So here is our list for this year, some things are very specific to our family, I've made a graphic of more general fun summer activities for a Catholic family! I'll be linking up here as I blog about our summer adventures!

  1. Build a swing set
  2. Eat ice cream/popsicle/frozen yogurt
  3. Fly a kite
  4. Go to the zoo
  5. Blow bubbles
  6. Swim
  7. Visit all of the parks in the park system
  8. Plant a garden
  9. Go fishing
  10. Camp out
  11. Run a race
  12. Library summer reading game
  13. Paint something 
  14. Draw with chalk
  15. Play baseball
  16. VBS
  17. Ride bikes
  18. Watch fireworks
  19. Be flower girls (okay, so we can't all do this one)
  20. Grill
  21. Try a new recipe
  22. Make ice cream
  23. Have a party
  24. Go for a long walk
  25. Play with cousins/friends
  26. Sew something
  27. Knit something
  28. Go to the farmer's market
  29. Have a bonfire
  30. Go garage saling
  31. Pick strawberries
  32. Pick blueberries
  33. Visit Hale Farm
  34. Go to morning mass
  35. Read lots of books
  36. Movie night
  37. Ride the train at the outlet mall
  38. Go out to dinner
  39. Have a dance party
  40. Visit the splash pad
  41. Play in the rain
  42. Go to a baseball game
  43. Build a fort
  44. Go see a movie
  45. Work on a craft project
  46. Go to the fair
  47. Play in the sprinkler
  48. Have a water balloon fight
  49. Have a picnic
  50. Make s'mores

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

10 Thoughts About The 9 Month Sleep Regression

1. I am going to be stuck in this chair for the rest of my life.

2. I need to teach Elise how to make dinner.

3. Remember when I used to do things? Anything?

4. What do people who don't use baby carriers do?

5. I vow, that as soon as this sleep regression is over, that I am going to make good use of my time and always fold my laundry right out of the dryer.

6. Coffee is the best.

7. Maybe if I just move reeeeeeally slowly, I'll be able to put him down and use the bathroom alone.

8. Nope. Didn't work, back to the chair.

9. I should have put dinner in the crock pot this morning, why did I think I'd have time during "nap time"?

10. The other kids are being so quiet. That probably means they are doing something they shouldn't. I don't even care because at least that means the baby is sleeping.